Monotony=Death

"I feel monotony & death to be almost the same." Charlotte Bronte

Its so true. Monotony is almost equal to death. How can somebody go on living doing the same things everyday for years- get up at the same time, eat time to time, sleep on time, do the same things everyday. Its so boring. Life becomes so mechanical, its like you are not a human being but a machine which functions in a programmed manner. I wonder how people can live like that. Are they actually living or just dragging their life?

Relationships

What are relationships meant for? Why do they exist? Why has God made relationships? Why can't a human being live in isolation without these reationships? Why do they want someone in the form of mother, father, brother, sister, grandparents, uncles, aunts, cousins, friends, lover, husband, wife, children, etc.? Why does a man need them? What was the real purpose of God to make such relations? Why does a child need to come out from a mother's womb, why couldn't God just throw a baby on the ground from the sky?

God has made such relations to fulfill different needs of a man, to make a human being complete. The first relationship that takes place is between a child & his/her mother. This is the first and the most purest form of relationship that exists on earth. Relationships protect us, make us experience love, enjoy life and celebrate. Life becomes easier with loved ones. It is important for human beings survival to be wanted and to want someone.

But what happens when such relationships instead of enhancing your growth and development start causing damage to you emotionally and/or physically. What happens when they try to curb your freedom and cut your wings for their own selfish interest or insecurities. It is painful. It is suffocating. It is devastating. It is worse than dying. Its like life imprisonment where you have got to suffer all your life. It feels terrible when you come across a situation wherein a person whom you trust the most and to whom you look up to, break your trust and you get to discover truths which are heartbreaking and which literally shakes your foundation. How to deal with those people whom you love the most, who mean the world to you are giving you the maximum pain. You feel jangled, its like experiencing hell on earth.

Trust, Love, Respect and Mutual Understanding are the four pillars which form a strong foundation on which a relationship stands.

According to me, an ideal relationship is one which gives you enough space and independence to be yourself, allow you to pursue your dreams but most importantly, let you live.

Forgive and Forget

I have often realized, that, when I am angry with somebody, I prefer letting go that anger after some time. It goes like this – when you are angry, you have two options – (1) Hold the grudge against the person you are angry with or (2) Forgive. When you hold the grudge against that person, especially your loved ones, you will feel a sense of heaviness in the air and in your heart. Your mind will be occupied with negative thoughts. You won’t be able to concentrate on anything you do. You’ll end up feeling anxious, irritated and disturbed. But if you let go the anger & just behave normal, believe me, you will feel amazing and also find your surroundings to be more pleasant. The best part about forgiving is the sense of calmness and peace of mind that one can experience. Forgiving is more difficult than holding something against somebody. But, this of course is applicable when the reason for anger is petty. If someone does something really bad to you, then it is better to forgive but not forget and be cautious in future as far as that person is concerned.

Forgiveness is always better than being hooked to grudges. Life is too short to be wasted on getting angry and spoiling your time and energy over those people who are not worth giving so much importance.